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Meet Iris, a science-backed coach for pacifying compulsive porn use.
Learn the science, catch the urge, block the paths, free yourself.
Iris gets to know your triggers and your patterns, so it coaches you like it already knows you.
How it works
Iris is trained on the parts of CBT relapse-prevention1Marlatt & Gordon (1985). Map the chain that ends in use. Catch it earlier next time. Build forward rules that are specific and testable., ACT urge tolerance2Hayes, Strosahl & Wilson. Don't argue with the urge. Notice it, defuse the bargaining thought, ride the wave without obeying it., motivational interviewing3Miller & Rollnick. Reflect, don't lecture. Honour ambivalence instead of pushing abstinence onto someone still defending the behaviour., and urge surfing4Marlatt (2002). Urges are time-limited body events. Many rise and fall over 10 to 20 minutes when you stop feeding them. Repeated practice weakens the urge-action link. that fit a five-minute Telegram exchange. The methods are established. The difference is that Iris brings them into the moment you usually need them.
The chain, the wave, the catch
Try moving the catch point.
Caught at the lead-up — the scrolling stops before arousal builds. A small ripple, then nothing.
State-aware coaching
Iris recognises the state you're in and runs a different playbook. Tap through the states below to see how the conversation actually changes.
Text the moment the pull starts. Iris keeps the target small and stays in the next few minutes with you. Conversation, not directives, for most urges.
Why it's different
Blockers stop access. Iris handles the moment before access: the state, thought, and trigger chain that usually comes first.
Works best with friction
Not affiliated. These are standard friction tools. Iris handles the coaching layer.
Memory with a job
Iris remembers the things that change future behaviour, not trivia. And it helps you set the offline rules you follow when you're not messaging.
What it remembers
What you don't have to message about
What you get back
Not testosterone. Not no-fap superpowers. The outcomes you can expect when the loop starts to loosen.
Early access
Take the quiz now and unlock your full read in Telegram. If the coaching product fits what you need, reply "access" there and we'll add you to the early-access list.
We're not treating the coach as generally available yet. The point of early access is to test the Telegram experience with a small group before opening it wider.
Early access
Telegram-first signup after your quiz read.
Iris starts with the quiz. Your answers become Iris's starting context, so the first conversation isn't generic.
Questions
Built by a former porn addict who used Iris to help get clean. Porn recovery products often split between moral panic and generic productivity tools. Iris is built around a simpler idea: catch the chain earlier, reduce shame, and use established behaviour-change methods in the moment they're needed.
It's for what clinicians now call compulsive sexual behaviour disorder (CSBD) or problematic pornography use. ICD-11 lists CSBD as an impulse-control disorder, not formally an addiction. Iris matches your language without endorsing one label. It works whether you have repeated loss of control, a quiet drag that doesn't fit your values, or anything in between.
CBT relapse-prevention for chain mapping and forward rules. ACT for urge tolerance and cognitive defusion. Motivational interviewing for the engagement layer. Marlatt's urge-surfing model for the way urges rise and fall when you stop feeding them. None of this is novel. What's novel is delivering it at the points of risk, not once a week in a therapist's office.
A blocker adds friction. Iris handles the moment when friction is not enough: the bargaining, the late-night state, the post-lapse spiral, and the plan for next time. Most people who quit use both.
We started there, but WhatsApp is hostile to businesses working on sensitive topics like porn addiction. Telegram gives Iris the room to work properly: private chat, reliable delivery, and mini apps for lessons, setup, and tools in one seamless experience.
No. Iris doesn't diagnose and doesn't push an identity onto you. The 'addict forever' frame is one model that helps some people; it's not universal truth and Iris doesn't impose it.
Streak culture is fine as motivation, but the identity collapse after a lapse is what kicks most people back into bingeing. Iris treats a lapse as data, not as starting from zero. The pattern hunt after a slip is the part that changes future behaviour.
Iris isn't built for safety emergencies. If you're in crisis or thinking about harming yourself, please contact a crisis service directly (e.g. Samaritans on 116 123 in the UK and Ireland, 988 in the US).
The quiz is live. The full Iris coach is still in early access, so we open it in small batches while we test it carefully. Finish the quiz, open your read in Telegram, and reply "access" if you want in.