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The Iris blog.
Plain-language writing on porn recovery, the science of urges, behaviour change, and how we're building Iris. No moral panic, no productivity-bro tropes.
Am I addicted to porn?
A calm self-check for problematic porn use: the signs that matter, what does not automatically mean addiction, and what to do next if the pattern is costing you.
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AI porn addiction: when AI girlfriends and sexting bots become a problem
AI porn, AI girlfriends, and sexting chatbots can become compulsive for some people. Learn the signs, why AI content feels different, and what to do next.
I tried to quit for 12 years. NoFap made it worse.
A founder's account of twelve years inside the NoFap framework, why the streak structure made things harder, and what eventually changed. Plus the cleanest description I know of the Abstinence Violation Effect.
You watched porn. The next hour matters most
What to do in the hour after watching porn: the research, the cognitive trap to avoid, and a six-step plan you can run in the next 60 minutes.
Quittr vs Brainbuddy vs Fortify vs Covenant Eyes: an honest review
A calm, structural review of the four most-Googled porn-recovery tools. What each one does well, where each one falls short, and how to choose between them without wasting money.
Is my partner addicted to porn?
A calm, evidence-based guide for partners trying to understand what they've discovered. What the research actually says, how to tell a habit from a compulsion, and what to do in the first weeks after finding out.
How to talk to your GP about porn use
A UK-specific guide to raising compulsive porn use with your NHS GP. What to book, what to say, what they can and can't do, and how to use the 10 minutes well.